From Sandy on figuring out her diet patterns
I realized that when there was some sort of event / deadline for losing weight (wedding, vacation, etc.), I would go on some crazy diet and become completely obsessed (and stressed) about losing weight... only to fail. Again. This has been a life-long pattern and I finally see how each time, I am just setting myself up to fail. And by the way, I never really lose the weight that I planned to - maybe 7-10 pounds - but it always came back right after the event.
The one time I did lose a lot of weight (due to the shock of finding out about my husband’s affair) people would comment about how good I looked. But I felt like a fraud because I knew it was not a healthy weight loss. And sure enough, as my life began to stabilize, the weight came back.
About nine months after my WISE group started, I decided I was going to commit to finding my healthy weight as a part of my life plan... no deadlines, no stress, no rush – and no more dieting! I embraced eating when I was hungry and stopping when I was full without being too concerned about what I was eating. I started eating more slowly. If I wanted a cupcake, I had it and didn’t feel guilty. If I felt full and kept eating, I said so out loud but didn’t make myself feel bad. Eventually I started looking at cookbooks and planning better meals. I also made a point of tracking my fruit & veggie intake, trying to make sure I had 4-5 a day. Slowly, I switched from white carbs to more whole wheat. But most of all, I was simply AWARE.
It’s been 10 months and yes, I have lost weight. But much better for me (and it was a huge surprise!) is that I am no longer obsessed with what I eat – I can honestly say that my Diet Head has been replaced with my Healthy Mind!